no, you're not understanding what's wrong. this isn't about you or your feelings, it's about facts.

oh great, another expert in computer science/cancer research/psychology teaching me about facts.

yikes, some folks just can't seem to separate the issue from their ego, dontcha think?

yea, no argument here, facts are facts. but denying they apply to a situation just because someone's feelings are

great, the old "stick to the facts" tactic, meant to shut down nuance and emotion. which fact exactly am i missing?