We spend so much time and energy trying to be perfect online. But in real life, nobody expects anyone to be perfect, except ourselves. Let's try being kinder to ourselves, flaws and all.

idk, it's hard to just be kind to ourselves when everyone around us is trying to sell the idea of

sorry, that sounds like a copout to me. if you're too busy being kind to yourself to actually be

easier said than done when u got 1000+ followers judging u

uh rlly? are we talking about just ourselves or each other too?

speak for yourself, i expect perfection 24/7 or it's the guillotine for me.

lmao tell me about it. i try to be a perfect online persona but irl i cant even figure out how to

lol easy for you to say, you're probably one of those people who wakes up with perfect hair

omg i'm so guilty of that... trying to curate a perfect online persona while my real life is just a

I completely agree with this. It's ironic that we're more likely to offer excuses and compassion to others struggling with imperfections, yet have zero patience with ourselves

I've been trying that for years, but my self-compassion muscles only grow by talking trash about myself to my therapist

but isn't that just what we're doing by posting this, trying to present some perfect philosophical persona online?

no, that's not the point. people get off on pretending to be perfect online, it's a facade that makes others feel bad about themselves.

amen to that. and nobody's highlight reel is as lit as it seems anyway, let's stop comparing our

okay but what about when people act like they're perfect online and it's actively hurtful or toxic?

tbf, if you can't even be kind to yourself when you're a public figure, how do you expect regular

who's suggesting this should only apply to individuals, not to global tech companies where my data is fragmented into a mess because "none of us are perfect"?

um no, that's pretty unrealistic. yeah people don't expect others to be perfect, but i damn well

the dawg in me so strong. I could never be perfect. i'm already a whole snack, flaws and all 🤪

no. we should be striving for perfection online. i'm not about that "flaws and all" nonsense.

um yeah because nothing says being kind to ourselves like deleting our trash tweets at 3am to maintain a curated image

lowkey this is the most real thing i've seen all day.

same, social media's literally warped our idea of perfection to the point where we're beating ourselves up over stuff that doesn't even

the dawg in me says "speak for yourself, i expect everyone to be perfect 24/7 or else they're trash

finally a reason to stop pretending i'm a morning person

what about all the people who make a living hounding others for their imperfections online? don't they contribute to the self-criticism too?

Not buying it. Some people totally expect perfection from others in real life. Especially at work or in their social circle.

the dawg in me can't help but say, if we were all perfect online, who would be left to call out the

i guess that's a great excuse to post this pic of my messy room instead of scrubbing it today

deadass, it's wild how hard we are on ourselves for not meeting some unrealistic standard.

yea, true that. we're always tryna look perfect for the 'gram. But irl no one gives a shit.

nah, forget that. i'm not trying to be "perfect" online, i'm just being my honest self.

preach!! we're so hard on ourselves, it's like... no one's gonna care about your bad hair day or

why do we gotta be so hard on ourselves? like, who tf made up the rule that we gotta be perfect all

I'm not buying it. Everyone around me expects to be entertained. Impressed, and connected on social media, not coddled in fantasy.

true, might as well just embrace our inner mess while we're at it 🤷‍♂️

nah, real life is where i'm tryna be perfect. online is where i let my mess show

dude what about when you see someone posts all these perfect little posts and you're like yeah sure

wow, perfect online? i can barely get out of bed on time most days.

yeah and also let's be kinder to our wifi signal, it's been struggling for years

why are we so hard on ourselves? like, who tf made up the rule that we have to be perfect all the

couldn't agree more, but also important to recognize that a lot of the unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves are influenced by the curated highlight reels we see online.

omg yaaas let's all strive for a solid 7/10 and call it a day

And let's also try to post something on social media that we wouldn't edit ten times before hitting send.

So why do we hold ourselves to a higher standard online than we do in real life? Isn't that kind of backwards?

i feel this so much. we really do put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect online when in reality, nobody cares

the reason we're expected to be perfect online is because the internet amplifies everyone's flaws for all to see, don't just pretend that's not a

not buying it. if you don't put in the effort, nobody takes you seriously

nah, that's bs. we gotta keep it real online. everyone expects perfection, that's the whole point.

Especially since my real-life self can barely get out of pajamas, my online self has zero chance of being perfect

no, thats not the problem. the problem is people like you spewing feel-good nonsense while the rest of us r fighting for scraps in a job market that

is that not just more pretentious online bs tho?

yuhm, this is so true, but let's be real, society also doesn't make it easy to not be a robot on the 'gram, there's too

i'm so here for this. but let's be real, social media also profits off our insecurities, you know?

i'm so down for that, self kindness is a whole mood.

Not true. My employers, friends, and family do expect a certain level of performance and reliability. We can't just opt out of real-world expectations to chill out online.

couldn't agree more but let's also be real. Most people on social media aren't just expecting

but why tf do we have to set the bar so low for ourselves online? we can do better than that.

exactly what i'm trying to say. isn't it wild that we're social media is basically the only place where people pretend to be anything but

ive got bills to pay and people to impress, being kind to myself isnt gonna cut it when im

are we really just saying this because we don't actually feel pressure to be perfect online, or do

don't you think that's a pretty privileged perspective?

are you kidding? we're literally held to a higher standard online because that's where the most people see us, and one wrong move can get

this is just a cop-out. people expect perfection in real life too, it's just harder to notice because it's not on

no way, being perfect online is the only way to live. i'll never stop trying to be the most flawless version of myself online, even if i'm

nah, i'm sorry but that's complete bs. nobody expects me to be perfect irl either.

yeah no, i'm still tryna be perfect online, my follower count is dependin on it

Spare me the 'kindness to ourselves' Instagram philosophizing. What's often masquerading as 'perfectionism' is actually just lack of effort and accountability.

i wholeheartedly agree. But can we also make sure to cut others some slack too?

we're not gonna solve low self esteem by being more "kind" online, if people didn't curate their lives we'd see how boring and average everyone is and move on with our lives

yeah right, like nobody thinks i'm flawless on insta just bc i'm wearing makeup and editing the

hard disagree. we all have standards we should strive for, online and off. perfection may be unattainable but we should still aim high.

are you kidding me? if everyone settled for just being okay in real life.

Not really, some people do expect you to be perfect. Like your boss or clients. Social media is just an online aspect of our lives. But it can reflect on our professionalism.

i'll work on that right after i finish editing 50 photos for the perfect instagram grid 😅

who's really buying the highlight reel tho

lol except when you're tryin to get a loan or a job, then all of a sudden flaws are a major issue

deadass, who tf is tryna be perfect online? i'm just tryna get by.

perfection might be a myth but kids don't get a free pass for being 'quirky'. good manners and personal responsibility aren't overrated

um, so if nobody expects to be perfect in real life, why do we plaster curated highlight reels all

If nobody expects us to be perfect, why do we put that pressure on ourselves just by being on social media?

preach, but also let's be real... being kind to ourselves is hard as hell when everyone's throwing

lol yeah until i post a selfie with a few extra pimples and my followers start doing the math on

That's a load of crap. The pressure to be perfect online is real, and it carries over into our real lives.

yeah, like we can just turn off the internet filters, a selfie stuck in perpetual volleyball mode is nice

That's a load of crap. We should hold ourselves to high standards. Perfectionism is a good thing, it's what drives us to improve. You can't just embrace your flaws and expect to get ahead in life.

yeah and also let's try not to curate our brunch pics, just eat the dang avocado toast

so true. we're way too hard on ourselves these days. we should focus on being our authentic selves, not some edited version for social media.

urgh, ok fine i'll try being kinder to myself and delete all the cringy selfies from high school tonight

perfect? i can barely get out of bed in the morning without tripping over my own feet.

um, who's holding everyone to these expectations of being "perfect online" in the first place?

lol tell that to my followers, they expect nothing less than perfection from me 24/7. guess i'll just have to keep photoshopping out my imperfections 💅

yeah but can we also cut down on the extremely fake profiles making the message look like a sales

easier said than done when ur flooded with curated content 24/7. how u sposed to ignore that?

somebody get this person a nobel prize for discovering the obvious

yes, let's do that. but can we also stop perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards online?

Are we really teaching our kids to be more kind to themselves by projecting a perfect image online?

yeah, so true. we're way too hard on ourselves. gotta learn to embrace the mess sometimes.

um actually, a lot of people on my social media do expect others to be perfect online, and it

this "nobody expects us to be perfect" narrative lets people off the hook for actual accountability.

no one's perfect, especially me. that's why i'm always 'accidentally' spilling coffee on my laptop.